Whenever I hear someone say they don’t like “drama” in some dissing manner, I find myself recoiling. As I think about why this is, I realize that mainly this comes from men. And when they say drama I suspect that what they really mean is emotion. ” Please don’t expect us to be emotional or respect your emotions”, is the underlying subtext I hear in this.
In other words it is a diss at women and our tendency to be more in touch with our emotions and to want to express them. Whenever I hear anyone talk about this drama thing I hear someone talking who is uncomfortable with emotion. They need to get a parakeet or something.
AND, the next time I hear the phrase”too much drama” coming out of some man’s face directed at a woman, I am going to tell the bastard he should date a hyena if feelings are too damn much for him!
DITTO and can I get an AMEN?!?!?
I think that as a whole, white-bread american society teaches us to hold our feelings in, especialy negative feelings.
Back in more gender segragated times, this applied only to men. But as women’s role has become less distinguishable from men, we have been become subject to this same restriction.
I think that many men resent that women are their equals, so they try to imply that we are empotionally weak and inferior.
Of course I resent this, but it angers me even more when women buy into this , and start throwing the D-word around.
To be healthy , we need to be able to express our emotions: stoicism and phony happy-face leads to a very limited experience of life.